Every year, through an infinite number of processes, we all sit down, review the past year, and set resolutions for the next year. Some of us write them down, some of us share it with our loved ones, and some of us just ring in the new year with a glass of champagne. No matter how we go about it, we all have some way of acknowledging that the past year has ended and that a new beginning awaits us with the coming of the new year.
However, some of us have given up on the act of making resolutions, because we find that 3 months, 3 weeks, 3 days down the road we have already forgotten our commitment. If you’ve been keeping up with my blog posts, you probably already have a good idea of why I think making resolutions is critical. Resolutions, any type of goal, allows you to make directed, strategic choices and decisions, instead of waiting for life to make those same choices and decisions for you. Knowing what you want is the first step in getting what you want.
A resolution is defined as:
- A formal expression of opinion or intention made, usually after voting, by a formal organization, a legislature, a club, or other group.
- A resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.
- The act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc..
- The mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.
- The act or process of resolving or separating into constituent or elementary parts
A common theme: Determination. But what this definition is lacking is the how behind determination. The word determination in our society seems to have an almost magical connotation, an unattainable aspect, something akin to needing to have sheer willpower to achieve an accomplishment. There’s an understated word in this definition: Intention.
At Coach Training Alliance, we talk a lot about intention. Understanding the intention behind an action gives you the power to achieve it.
The trick to forming resolutions is to fully understand what the desired result is and why that result is important to you. It allows you to gain determination. Thinking about what your true motivation is for your desired action, that gives you power.
The Formula for Resolutions
Resolution = True Motivation + Desired Result
Here’s an example:
Before using the formula:
David’s Resolutions for 2012
- To buy a new car
- To lose 20 lbs
- To keep in touch with my family more
After using the formula:
David’s Resolutions for 2012
- I intend to by a new car so I can impress more girls
- I intend to lose weight by working out and eating healthier so I can feel more energetic
- I intend to keep in touch with family so I can feel more rooted and grounded than I did this past year
By clearly stating and writing your motivations along with the actions you’re going to take, it gives you the flexibility to change your tactics if necessary to meet your true goal. You also are armed with much more conviction when you know exactly why it is so important to you to make a specific action.
Your Coach Challenge: Try it out and if you’d feel comfortable, share with us, what are your resolutions for this year?